There’s a thing they talk about in screenwriting where your characters are determined not by who you want them to be but by their necessary actions. You find out who they are by seeing what they do, both audience and author alike. You don’t decide who your characters are, their actions tell you who they are. There’s an important lesson here for us all about not putting the cart before the horse by designing your own character first and trying to fit into it later. Allow yourself to be shaped by your function; become the person necessary to achieve your authentic ends and let that determine who you are.

To do this, you must first figure out what you want, which is exactly the same for everyone; you want to transition into adulthood and live in alignment with your unique pattern. That’s the whole deal, that’s what this spirituality jazz is all about. That’s what everyone wants whether they know it or not, and yet, that’s what we all somehow manage to avoid.