If we who think outside the herd spend any time looking at leading theories of attachment, we see, not surprisingly, that the goals and assumptions of the psychological community don’t align with our own. What they might view as a desirable developmental outcome — a confident, emotionally stable grownup capable of creating and maintaining healthy, mature relationships — we might view as a catastrophic failure to launch. They are interested in producing good herd members, we are interested in developing beyond herd constraints.